Defining your limits:
Everyone has their own goals or dreams to achieve. All of us working so hard and trying to get what we want from life. We prepare very well and still, we get fail at some task or works, we know we can do it but we have something within us that limits us to not do or get what we want. Whatever your career is, what job you have been involved in, or competition you participate in, generally, there are 5 aspects in all of our lives that have big possibilities to limit you to underperform, lose, and even sometimes over-perform that results in failure. I suggest you look at the five aspects below which are the ones that cause you to limit yourself and stops not achieve.
Illness: The severity of your illness suggests your safe level of activity.
Less Activity: This factor refers to how much you are doing when you are capable of doing more than the past and present. To get improved on doing activities, you can divide this into three areas: physical, mental, and social activity.
Physical activity means any activity involving physical exertion, including housework, shopping, standing, driving, and exercise. To define your limits in this area, estimate how many hours a day in total you can spend in physical activity without feeling lazy. Because the effects of effort you put in can be cumulative, you might ask yourself how many hours a day you could carry on over a week without putting off your daily physical tasks. The lesser you do the physical activities, the lesser your body gets activated and perform during the day.
Mental activity means activities requiring concentration, like reading, working on the computer, or balancing a checkbook. If ones’ mind is not enough activated in a day, the mind directs the body the same energy the mind posses. Due to a lack of enough mental activity, many people easily get tired, frustrated, and feel bored. The three questions to ask in this area are: How many hours per day can I spend on doing things that must be done by that day? How long can I spend on a single task without getting distracted? What is my best time of day for mental activity?
Social activity refers to the amount of time you spend interacting with other people. I suggest you think of social activity in two forms: in person and other (e.g. phone and email). Questions to ask yourself about each type include: Am I surrounded with the right contacts and What am I going to share and get shared daily?
Improper Rest: People always refer to rest as sleeping, watching TV, and Cinema. A rest means cease work or movement in order to relax or recover strength. Of course, relaxation includes sleep but it is not everything. Since people do not understand properly what a real rest is, they still searching for it. Many people do lots of unnecessary activities before sleep that result in the poor quality of sleep. A rest should consist of good and qualitative sleep than quantity; Winston Churchill could effectively manage to work even after midnight because he sleeps few hours in the morning and evening. A good rest includes playing with kids, gym exercises, sports, a long walk, chatting with a good friend, reading an interesting magazine, etc. Questions you might ask about sleep include: how many hours of sleep do I need? What is the best time to go to bed and to get up? How refreshing is my sleep? How much total daytime rest do I need? How frequently should I rest?
Strong Emotions: Strong emotions like fear, anger, grief, and depression are normal reactions to having a mental illness. This factor refers to the emotions we experience as part of being mentally ill can be realized or left unrealized but it affects the physical activity and works input. Fear is just an unpleasant thought or imagination of the future which is not real in the present. In fact, fear cannot be real unless one acted towards it. Fear, anger, grief are all choices and those absolutely depend on your conscious decisions. You can either choose to get angry at someone or realize no one can anger me, I am in charge of what is happening. Questions in this area include: What emotions are important in my life now and how intense are they? What is the effect of emotionally charged events? (Events with strong emotion often trigger the release of adrenaline, which can be very taxing.)
Excessive Stress: This refers both to the sources of stress in our lives and to our sensitivity to those stressors. In terms of sources, three are crucial: finances, relationships, and things. Finances can impose severe limits and be a major source of stress. Relationships can be sources of support and help, sources of strain, or both. Ask these questions: Am I accepting my stress? It means understanding the origin of the tension or pressure or anxiety. Do I need to keep away from negative people? After understanding the stress origin, if few people are the reason, take necessary actions but never try to hurt anyone. Do I need things to fulfill? If you lack possessing some materials, write down the goal of attaining those. Ami organized in my work or studies?
Having an understanding of the common limits of human can help you to set priorities and choose to act what really needs to be.